Do you feel like you can be 100% yourself no matter where you are or who you are with?

The common answer is no. It is unfortunate but true. So many people feel like they have to wear some sort of costume when they are at work, at home, with friends, or with family. That is just four examples too! How many different places do you feel you have to be different?

Once you have calculated your list, let’s take a trip down “think about this street”.

If you are hiding who you are or being unreal in all those places, how many people that you are around are hiding as well? How many of us are literally hiding inside of groups of others who are just hiding as well?

If you think you are the only one….


you’re not.

It is in our culture to be something we are not. If every single one of us is chasing a predetermined American Dream, where we’re all supposed to go to college, get the job, then get the marriage, the house, the picket fence, the kids, the dog, the blah blah blah. Where does this predetermined set of goals that society has laid out before us come from? So many of us are just living a life as a consumer and an employee. We all go to see movies, listen to music, play games where characters are doing heroic things, all adventuring and leading yet so few of us follow suit.

Watching actors and animation portraying lives more exciting than ours.

Here is a tip.


When was the last time you stuck your flag in the ground and said, “This is who I am!!”.

No one has the power to judge you. Their judgements are just judgements of themselves. And everytime you do something out of character, those around you who are content in their illusions feel threatened. Be a leader and let them know you are ok with their reactions and remind yourself that they have nothing to do with you.

A common thing about expression in our capitalist/consumerism society is that we believe that we must HAVE something, before we DO something, before we can BE someone else.


BE the person that DOES things and watch your list of HAVE’s increase and evolve.

You are the Hero in your adventure and it is supposed to be scary to adventure out.

No Hero is without fear. No Hero is without fault. And all heroes take responsibility for their lot in life.

Get out there and make some mistakes. Own them. Learn from them. And with every step learn more and more about how to be the best version of yourself.

I triple dog dare you.